A lot of chatter has been devoted to the modern social phenomena of an "alpha" so I think I should touch on the topic and fill you, my reader, in on what REALLY matters about the subject.
First and foremost, everything you think you know about Alphas is wrong.--The originators of this concept were basing their research off of hearsay about wolves. As zoologists studied wolves in their natural habitat, they learned things that changed the whole concept of an Alpha (in the wolf world), but by and large the human concept of an Alpha never caught up in light of the new research.
Let me retell the story of wolves:
In the wild, wolves live in a pack. The pack consists of primarily family members, but also the occasional straggler from another pack. These stragglers come from packs that have not survived (due to hunters and farmers killing off the rest of their pack, or the inability to find food), or for whatever reason, the straggler could be a banished member of another pack who was shunned and kicked out for disobedience. --Typically, packs don't want stragglers, because they are the weak link of another pack and are merely another mouth to feed in a world of limited resources, yet somehow these stragglers find an edge into the pack.
That "edge" into the pack could be as simple as that they follow the pack around and refuse to leave, sleep away from the pack but make no indication that they are there to threaten the pack, and benefit when the pack benefits by eating leftovers and scraps. They may also fight their way into pecking order above another member of the pack and therefore gain acceptance. Or, they could simple follow the social cues of the other pack members, start at the very bottom and as the pack dynamic changes they could possibly rise in rank--provided they pull their weight with the rest of the pack.
--I thought I would focus on this member of the pack before diving into the Alpha because it will shed some more light on what an Alpha is.
In a wolf pack, or a dog pack, or any kind of herd really, the Alpha is the decision maker. He or SHE is responsible for ensuring stability, taking the pack to the best hunting or grazing ground, and relieving the pack member's anxiety. --That's right, HE or SHE. It can be male, it can be female, and it can be BOTH. As I said earlier, a pack is primarily a family, so the male and female that bore all of the children tend to be the pack leaders. They actually work together to ensure the pack members feel accepted, don't fight with one another, that those who are too young to fend for themselves are taken care of, and that they travel together and work together to hunt or defend each other.
--when people think about Alphas, they focus on the benefits of being an alpha--that they get prime mating selection, that the pack members seem to look after them the most, etc etc. But this is not true. The Alpha, by nature of their position, is required to be responsible. They are required to take care of the pack members, look out for the weaker members (which is likely all of them), and they have to carry the burden of making all of the decisions.
There are two reasons why they have the prime pick of a mate: 1) because they make decisions for the pack, others don't dare defy their orders because it is ingrained in them to follow the leaders decisions because it is for the good of the pack. 2) They are the most responsible, have to be the most intelligent so they can lead the pack to the best opportunities for survival, have to be the strongest in order to maintain order and at times force their will, they also have to be the best communicator in order to resolve conflicts and maintain order. Because they possess all the best traits, the other pack members, by instinct, are attracted to them.
Now let's relate that to humans.
If you are physically good looking, highly intelligent, emotionally stable, your communication skills are supreme, and possibly wealthy and therefore can provide a stable life, good looking kids, plenty of social opportunities, and can resolve relationship conflicts, then people will naturally be attracted to you.--we call these people "the complete package" and "the perfect 10." Yet, really they fall into the category of a Human Alpha, just like wolves, cows, elephants, and chickens have alphas.
Also, if you are in a position of power, such as a company leader, politician, teacher, provider, or personal trainer, then by instinct it is ingrained in us to go along with what you say in the belief that you are looking out for our best interests. In other words, being in a position of power, makes it easier to obtain mating opportunities.
--But we don't need to study wolves and animals to realize that these people are Alphas...
Acting like a Rooster does not make you an Alpha, it just makes you come across as arrogant and might not help you attract the opposite sex. Being bossy, also, may not help you attract the opposite sex. However, now I need to explain another phenomena:
There is a way to fake being in a position of power or fake being capable of providing for others. Faking this, therefore, may attract the opposite sex, but will not work for the long term. If all you want to do with your life is get laid and take advantage of other people, then faking power, faking your intelligence, faking your social status, wealth, emotional stability, and physical appearance is an option, however nothing on this blog promotes that kind of behavior and so I will not be going into the details of how to do that.
On the flip side, if you want to gain real power, want to gain real wealth, real social status, emotional stability, and permanently change your physical appearance to possess some real level of physical attractiveness, then please reach out to me as a life coach and I can help you set up a plan and get you on the right track.
One final note: Being an Alpha is work. When you really are the Alpha of a pack, you are responsible. You are in that position because you possess leadership traits--or traits that people are attracted to because you are capable of helping them have a better life.--This does not mean that you DO help them have a better life, but bear in mind that people are attracted to you, follow you, and form relationships with you--as an Alpha--because they want you to, and even expect you to, help them. You SHOULD help these people, and that is ultimately what it means to be an Alpha.
People inherently desire stability, they desire peace and happiness, and so they are attracted to those who can bring them more stability, whether that is emotional stability, physical/financial stability, or intellectual stability. This is why stragglers will seek out alphas to submit to rather than living the life of a lone wolf. This is why our instincts lead us to follow some form of "Alpha," and is the whole reason why we are attracted to people who appear to be Alphas, because those people can provide us and our present/future posterity with better opportunities and grant us emotional and mental stability in the present.
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