The first step in achieving greatness is to define what success means to you. Some people call this having a vision, or being passionate about something, but the ultimate goal is to have it spelled out in your mind in clear and concise terms so that you know everything about it and will recognize it once you have achieved it.
I don't think many people really investigate this for themselves and as such their beliefs about what success means for them turns out awkward and elusive. Particularly with relationships, people tend to seek out some elusive unclear version of what they think is an ideal relationship for them, but change their mind often enough that the only relationships that end up "successful" for them are the ones that they settle on as being the definition of success. --But it doesn't have to be that way!
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Success comes in two forms:
1. Quantitative -- Or related to numbers. Measurable, and easy to determine how far off from success you are.
2. Qualitative -- Or having passed certain standards. Harder to determine how close you are to achieving success, but the outcome is easy to determine: either you have it or you don't.
Quantitative goals in relationships can lead to robotic tendencies. Human beings are not "By the books" and are sometimes associated with randomness because of how complex they are. On your quest to reach quantitative success, you may find yourself doing things just for the sake of meeting your quota, and that's no way to live as a human being! Instead of focusing on Quantitative relationship goals, focus on a version of Success that is Qualitative.
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