4 Secrets that will Transform You Into a Perfect 10

The main benefit of being a Perfect 10 is that you gain experience more quickly. Perfect 10s have more options and more decisions to make, which increases their chances of picking someone who meets more of their needs. Having more options equates to having a keener understanding of what traits meet their needs best and it limits their need to settle for the best option. Being a Perfect 10 isn't an end-all-be-all; some people meet their perfect match by chance and some people are able to morph to match whoever they are with, but being a Perfect 10 can help the rest of us who have to work for everything in life.

1. Pump up your Physical Traits
The first step of your transformation should be to maximize your physical characteristics. Hit the gym, buy some new, fashionable clothes, learn how to correctly apply make-up and handle proper hygiene.  The first thing people notice about you is your physical appearance. The way you dress and take care of yourself, supposedly, says a lot about you, but only in general terms--if you look sloppy, people will think you're sloppy. If you look sick, people will think you're a druggie or you have some disease that they don't want to get--including STIs *yikes!*--but if you look athletic, people will think you are ambitious. If you smell good, people will think you're a clean, orderly person.

2. Raise your Standards
The old English term for a "standard" was a flag or banner. If you raised your standard you were making two statements: first, that you weren't going to let just anybody into your territory, and second, that you aren't going anywhere.When you raise your standards today, you're doing the same thing: establishing boundaries and indicating that you have the time to wait. This is kind of a funny way of saying, "Be Choosy."
I'm not advocating being mean or rude, but there is a polite, even friendly, way to let people know that you don't want to work towards courting them unless/until they meet your most basic standards. I would like to emphasize the philosophy of "you have time to wait;" you should never turn down a potential good friend, but those friends should know that they aren't going to make any traction with you romantically until they can meet your needs.

3. Be Sociable
Some good synonyms here are: be open, put yourself out there, make yourself available, and let people know that you're interested. Go to places where you can mingle with others and start conversations with those who catch your eye (see step one, above). If people approach you--and they should if you've taken enough care during step one--make an effort to learn their name and at least one thing about them, even if they don't take care of themselves like you do. If you go to mingling spots, make sure you mingle, don't sit around and wait for good things to happen.

4. Follow Proper Protocol
It always starts with mingling, then dating, then courting. Perfect 10s know that there are rules to finding a mate, and they make a point to follow the rules because doing so maximizes their potential for success and limits their potential for failure. It is even more important for a Perfect 10 to follow the rules because they are approached more often and their potential is higher.

3 Tips on How to Attract Perfect 10s

A Perfect 10 is the term used for a girl or guy who, in front of a panel of judges, might rank 10 (the highest) on various categories by all judges. Men and women like to use the term on people who have a strong physical appeal, however it can also apply to other attractive characteristics. The term simply means that the person is highly desirable.

Being highly desired, Perfect 10s tend to be approached more often than the average person and gain relationship experience faster. They also tend to develop certain personality traits that either take advantage of the opportunities people give them, or serve to protect them from awkward situations. Being a Perfect 10 gives them a lot more options and decisions, so they become more experienced at taking advantage of things that will help them and rejecting those that might harm them.

1. Focus in on what you can offer

Because they have a lot of options, if you want to win over a Perfect 10 you have to be everything they need AND present that to them the right way. It's not enough to possess the traits that they are looking for, you also have to present that to them in a way that they understand. Think about it this way: to a Perfect 10, the rest of the world is a bunch of people wearing grey sweaters, every now and again someone with a blue sweater comes along, but there are too many people wearing grey sweaters up front for them to notice that someone could be wearing something other than grey in the back. 

Perfect 10s have the privilege of being picky, they have the option to look for something specific. A word of caution: If you don't have what they claim to want, you're not going to make any traction with them. If you are capable of providing them with what they need you will still have to convince them that you have what they need, but not in a way that makes you sound arrogant or desperate. 

Unfortunately, there is no perfect mold that you can fit into to cover all bases. Everyone is different and everyone needs their partner to have a different balance of traits, however a couple of nearly universal, good traits include confidence and a well-kept appearance. 

2. Don't lay down to be walked on

The worst thing you can do is lay down, roll over and let them walk all over you. Most Perfect 10's want a little bit of resistance in their lives to keep things interesting. If you give your everything to them, you'll come across as desperate, and unless they are desperate as well, they won't want anything to do with you. If they see you as a good opportunity, and they sense that you are desperate, they will take whatever you give them and play on your desperation to get the most out of you. If you lay down to be walked over they will use you and when you stop being useful they'll leave.

3. Know when to quit

If you are being used, you need to know when to quit. Being used isn't always a bad thing so long as you are both comfortable with the benefit you are getting from each other. The key is to avoid being over-used, and the only way to prevent that is to know where your boundaries are. At what point will you draw the line? Everyone should have boundaries; if the Perfect 10 you are after crosses your boundaries you need to confront them about it.--Don't assume that you know what their motives are--they may be thinking that you are okay with something simply because you haven't told them where your boundaries are. If they consistently cross your boundaries then you will need to be more strict at enforcing those boundaries; and if you've done everything you can, it might be time to quit pursuing this Perfect 10. 

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If you would like further assistance with winning over a Perfect 10, apply for my life coaching services. I typically charge $20/hr for my services and in a matter like this I could help you win his or her attention in three or less sessions.